This year that’s coming to an end has brought us all to an awareness of ourselves in a deeper way, whether we’ve wanted it or not. I’ve had to spend more time together with family, and less time with friends. If you live alone, you’ve probably spent a LOT of time with yourself. No matter the situation, we’ve had to face our own innermost workings.
Whether we realize it or not, the gift in this year is that we’ve had the opportunity to get to know ourselves better. Have you taken the time to do that? Have you spent time looking at your reactions and responses to life? What have you noticed? Is it time for a change? Does something need to shift?
One of the things I’ve noticed in my family and with friends is the need to be in control. When our world feels out of control, it’s uncomfortable and we want to control something or someone else if we feel like we are being controlled.
What if the need to be in control was the very thing that you need to look at?
What does being in control offer?
- maybe it’s a feeling of safety or
- maybe it’s comforting because you’re in charge or
- maybe it’s power over another or
- maybe it’s because you just don’t know what else to do
I know that I like to be in control and that I like to be right, so I’m always tempering my thoughts and words with this habit of mine. I’ve done lots or clearing work with others around this pattern in my life, yet when everything around me seems out of control, I return to it. For me, it’s comforting to create order. I try really hard to create order in ways that don’t affect others. Last night, I organized all my bracelets by color and that was enough for me to take a deep breath and re-align.
If you find yourself needing to control something or someone, it can help stop and look inside. When you bring yourself back into alignment with your energy, you’ll find an inner balance. Alignment happens when we’re aligned with who we are. For me, there’s something about organizing things or cleaning things that brings my inner focus back into alignment. From there, I can then gain a new perspective and see beyond whatever it was that was frustrating or trying to control me.
In my family, I observe that we’re all beyond tired of seeing each other. We love each other and we all want variety in our lives. We have become so accustomed to traveling and doing things that being at home has challenged us to find new ways to love and support each other. We each have our days where we’re done with everything, done with schooling at home, done with working at home in the same place, done with trying to find quiet space for 4 people to be on Zoom calls, done with not going out to eat, and missing the opportunity to travel. It’s been a LONG year.
Ideas for Moving Past the Need to Control
When I ask St Germain, the master of transformation, the first response I get is ‘Do something DIFFERENT.’ He shows me the paths we walk in life and when we keep walking the same path, it begins to feel like we’re being controlled because we’re on the same path. When we take a different path, there’s freshness and the opening for something new.
- Play a game instead of watching TV
- Put a puzzle together
- Enjoy an adult coloring book
- Take a walk and walk the opposite way that you usually do
- Get that cookbook off the shelf and create something new
There’s an aspect of creation in this. When we tap into the power of creation, we’re tapping into our energy. We’re here on earth with the possibility to create ANYTHING we want. We have the opportunity to CHOOSE our experience in every moment. The power of CHOICE is the power of CREATION.
Hang in there. This year too shall pass. Life will return to normal. Until then, create your normal. Use this time to create who you want to be. If that feels impossible, then you could be stuck in a pattern or have energy that needs to shift. It happens to all of us!
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